So you will remember from my last post, that I am talking to myself :) I Listen to my little girl within me. Once I have identified how I am feeling, I also need to validate my feelings. I talk back to the little girl, out loud if I can, repeating the emotions she is feeling, feeling empathy with her, being compassionate with her, and telling her that I love her and that her feelings are important. After experiencing negative emotions it is important to do self care. So then I ask, with my hand on my heart:
+So I have boundaries on her:My little girl does not make decisions for my life, but I accept and appreciate her input.
+I have boundaries to protect her: I will not allow other people to ____,____,_____.
+And I have boundaries to preserve and love her: I do self-care after negative emotions and after hard conversations with my husband and after I feel triggered, and I at least do 2 self-care items every day.